• Annual Tolerance Benefit 2019

    Monday, May 6, 2019 | 6:00 PM

    Westbury Manor, 110 Jericho Turnpike, Westbury NY 11590

    $135 per person | Business Attire

    Sponsored By:

    The Claire Friedlander Family Foundation | Mojo-Stumer Associates Sterlingrisk | Insurance Stewart Title

    Ike, Molly, & Steven Elias Foundation | Samar Hospitality

    Purchase your tickets or sponsorship online today!


    For more information contact Deborah Lom at (516) 571-8040 or dlom@hmtcli.org.

  • You’re Invited to The Holocaust Memorial and Tolerance Center of Nassau County’s Tolerance Benefit: “Taste of Long Island” and Silent Auction Monday, May 6, 2019, at 6:00 p.m.

    Glen Cove, NY…  Experience a taste of Long Island’s best restaurants at the Holocaust Memorial and Tolerance Center of Nassau County’s (HMTC) annual Tolerance Benefit: “Taste of Long Island.”  This year’s benefit features a tasting event and silent auction on Monday, May 6, 2019, at 6 p.m. at Westbury Manor, 1100 Jericho Turnpike, Westbury, NY.  In addition, three middle and high-school students will be presented with the Friedlander Upstander Award.

    Bidding at the Silent Auction

    The Tolerance Benefit is a way for donors, volunteers, Holocaust Survivors and members of the community to join together to raise money in support of HMTC’s Holocaust, anti-bias and anti-bullying education programs. Those donations make it possible to provide transportation for school groups to visit HMTC’s world-class museum and to hear first-hand testimony from a Holocaust Survivor and for nurses and law enforcement officers to participate in free training workshops.

    The Friedlander Upstander Award, presented by HMTC and the Claire Friedlander Family Foundation, in conjunction with the Nassau and Suffolk County Police Departments, is awarded to Nassau and Suffolk County middle school and high school students who have acted as Upstanders against bullying or intolerance in any of its forms. Recipients receive a $2,500 scholarship.

    The Tolerance Benefit is sponsored by Samar Hospitality, the Ike, Molly & Steven Elias Foundation, Stewart Title Associates, The Claire Friedlander Family Foundation, and Mojo-Stumer Associates. Other Sponsorship opportunities are available. Tickets are $135 a person and a ten-pack of tickets is available for $1,200. To make a donation or purchase tickets or a sponsorship online visit http://weblink.donorperfect.com/tolerance2019.

    For more information about sponsorship packages and to purchase tickets, contact Deborah Lom at (516) 571-8040 or dlom@hmtcli.org.

  • Friedlander Upstander Award Winner: Sage Gladstone

    Sage Gladstone (3rd from right), a student at South Woods Middle School was a winner of the 2018 Friedlander Upstander Award at at HMTC’s 2018 Tolerance Benefit. Her essay below demonstrates that she has acted as an Upstander against bullying and intolerance.

    Taking action, helping others, and making a difference.  Those are my values and my purpose in life.  I love constantly pushing for a better world, not just speaking about it.  I take initiative and make my ideas come to life.  My sense of responsibility to the world outside of mine is what drives me to help people.  I want to live in a world that is caring, promotes peace, and celebrates differences.  However, I know that can’t happen overnight, and maybe can’t ever happen, but I wake up every day to work towards my goal, rise above obstacles, and be an Upstander for all.

    I have been striving to fulfill that goal of mine since I was five years old.  When I was in kindergarten, I saw that there was a girl a few grades above me who didn’t have any hair.  I felt sad, confused, and worried that she may get made fun of or laughed at, so I wanted to help.  I wanted to show her that someone cared and was thinking about her, so I went home that day to ask my mom if I could cut my hair and just give it to her,  My mom said I couldn’t’ do exactly that but I could donate my hair to people just like her.  Even in my five-year-old mind, I was totally on board with the idea that I could make someone’s day or life better from just one small act.  A few months later, I cut my hair to the point where it looked like I should be dancing the Charleston with my flapper friends, and donated it to Locks of Love.  I did that two more times when I was in fourth grade and this past summer, between seventh and eighth grade.  I realized I was slowly making a change… a change that I wanted to see in our world.

    It has always been a priority of mine to acknowledge others and their feelings because it’s important to appreciate the work that everyone does.  I try to spread my appreciation to people who make our world go around but are sometimes forgotten like the bus drivers, security guards, custodians, and lunch servers.   I also think it is important to stand up to unkind behavior wherever I am.  I will not tolerate rude remarks, bullying, or peer pressure.  Even if doing the right thing is the unpopular choice to make in a situation, I will do it for the sake of the people being hurt.

    Last year, I began many new initiatives at my school to help work towards the change I want to see.  For example, I organized a welcoming committee that invited all of our new students to come and play games and talk about their experiences in our school so far.  I wanted to make sure all the students felt noticed and welcomed.

    When I was home sick with the flu last year, I watched a video online about an amazing non-profit organization called Days for Girls.  This organization assembles sustainable feminine hygiene kits to donate to girls in impoverished areas around the world such as Nepal, parts of India, Haiti and so many other places.  Without the proper materials, these girls end up missing up to five days a week each month with most girls ending up having a deprived education.  Without an education it’s hard for these girls to achieve their goals and pursue their dreams.  These kits aren’t only giving them the items every girl needs, it’s giving them a future… a life to look forward to.  These girls are punished for something that is so natural in every girl’s life and are sent to huts to deal with it by themselves.  While they are in these huts, most commonly refereed to as chhaupadis, their biggest fear isn’t trying to make sure they are staying clean and healthy, it’s worrying about being raped.  These huts are in the middle of nowhere with hardly any protection from any of those vicious men.  After I watched the video, I went to their website to find the Days for Girls’ phone number so I could contact them and see what I could do to help.  When I called, they listed a bunch of volunteer opportunities for me to be apart of.  I thought hosting a drive to collect the materials needed for these kits was the best option.  Once I recovered from the flu and was back at school, I attended a meeting with my feminist club and shared what I had learned about the organization, and pitched the idea of holding a drive.  My club advisers and peers loved the idea but we couldn’t start it just yet because it was too late in the year.  So, we saved my idea for this year.  Over the summer I kept in contact with Days for Girls, collecting all the information I needed to launch a successful drive.  In the fall, I went back to school and planned logistics for this drive to work in meetings with my principal and many conversations with Days for Girls representatives.  Soon, I was ready to put boxes out and have donations roll in.  I really wanted this to be a successful drive so I contacted a representative named Kathy from a local team and asked her to come and speak at my school on behalf of Days for Girls.  We set up a date, and asked students to come listen and learn about Days for Girls at their lunch periods; we had a rather well turn our and even a boy showed up.  It was amazing to have my peers have the opportunity to be educated on an organization that its so important and amazing but yet a forgotten world issue.  After Thanksgiving break we put out donation boxes and I created posters to decorate our school with.  I loved Kathy’s presentation, but I still wanted to teach more about this wonderful organization, so I created a presentation and lectured in health classes about why it is important to donate.  After about a month of running the toiletry drive, my mom and I delivered our four overflowing boxes of donations to Dumont, New Jersey, where Kathy lives.  Throughout this whole experience, I kept in touch with Allie, a representative at the Days for Girls headquarters in Washington State.  After multiple calls and emails, Allie reached out to me and asked if she could feature my story in the Days for Girls monthly newsletter.  Of course I said yes, and Allie congratulated me for being the youngest volunteer to be featured.  My responsibility does not end with one successful drive.  I’m still committed to spreading the message of Days for Girls and will continue to raise awareness at my school.  Next month, I will hold a second drive as well as continue to educate my peers with a global awareness exhibit I’ve organized at my school’s awareness fair.

    The problems needed to be addressed in order to achieve my ideal world does not stop with menstruation.  While we have different religions, talents, hobbies, and beliefs, I know we all have the power to be kind.  I am driven to encourage kindness not only through the halls of my school, but also out in our world.  I am currently in the process of spearheading many kindness movements at my school.  The main project is the Blue Box Campaign where students receive a classmate’s name and are encouraged to write an anonymous compliment about them.  I am also setting it up for teachers.  The main purpose of this movement is to encourage people to make others feel good about themselves and to spread the idea that we can all uplift each other with a simple gesture.  I’m also launching a kindness mural project, where all students are asked to write their definition of kindness.  After everyone’s definition is collected, I will create the mural in a hallway at my school.  The process of each student writing their unique definition of kindness will make them have to consider what being kind actually means to them.  I will also kick off a Token of Kindness Project where Peer Mediators will carry around stickers that have quotes abut kindness on them.  When we see acts of kindness during the school day we will give them out.  This project is designed to let everyone know that all acts of kindness, big or small, never go unnoticed.  To tie all of the kindness projects together, I will be organizing another kindness moment called Kind Hands of South Woods for students and teachers to paint their hands and leave their hand prints on a piece of paper.  This resembles their pledge to be kind and contribute positivity to our school.  I hope I will be able to cement the value of Kindness into the minds of my peers as I launch these initiatives.

    My sense of responsibility to change our world for the better and promote kindness doesn’t just end with humans, I believe I should show the same respect to animals.  I became a vegetarian in kindergarten because I felt really bad at the thought that I was eating another living thing.  However, sticking with those eating habits got difficult especially at such a young age and I was only a vegetarian sporadically, until this past summer when I watched a few documentaries about the vegan diet.  Last month marked 6 month of being vegan, this experience proved to me that helping other human or not is something that I care strongly about and I am willing to do it and not give up.

    “Be the change you want to see in the world” is a powerful quote that I think best sums up my vision for being an Upstander.  I will always push for a better world and challenge myself on how I can make an even larger impact than the day before.  Through high school, college, adulthood, and when I’m old, I will continue to be an Upstander, someone who will never forget the importance of advocating for others and love for helping them.  I hope to spread this message of helping the people around you and thinking about lives beyond your own to all the beautiful humans on this planet we share.

    Are you an Upstander?

    If you have a story that sounds like Sage’s and you are a Middle or High School student from Nassau or Suffolk Counties, share it with us! You might be one of our 2019 Friedlander Upstander Winners.

    Apply via the link below:

    Friedlander Upstander Awards

    Or mail to:

    Helen Turner | Friedlander Upstander Award, 100 Crescent Beach Road, Glen Cove, NY 11542

    For more information please call: (516) 571-8040 or email helenturner@hmtcli.org.



  • Annual Tolerance Benefit: Taste of Long Island

  • Tolerance Benefit: Made on Long Island – Tasting Event and Silent Auction

  • You’re Invited to HMTC’s Tolerance Benefit: Made on Long Island, May 16, 2016


    Experience Long Island artisan made foods and crafts at the Holocaust Memorial and Tolerance Center of Nassau County’s (HMTC) annual Tolerance Benefit: “Made on Long Island.”  This year’s benefit features a tasting event and silent auction on Monday, May 16, 2016, at 6 p.m. at Westbury Manor, 1100 Jericho Turnpike, Westbury, NY.  In addition, three middle and high-school students will be presented with the Friedlander Upstander Award and one Long Island college student will be awarded the Daniel Gillman Goodfellow Award. Money raised at the Tolerance Benefit goes towards Holocaust, anti-bias and anti-bullying education.

    Auction prizes include a VIP wine tastings at a variety of North Fork Vineyards, a $500 gift certificate for the NYC Food & Wine Festival, an autographed script of “When Harry Met Sally,” and a Bertolucci diamond Ladies Watch.

    The Friedlander Upstander Award, presented by HMTC and the Claire Friedlander Family Foundation, in conjunction with the Nassau and Suffolk County Police Departments, is awarded to Nassau and Suffolk County middle school and high school students who have acted as Upstanders against bullying or intolerance in any of its forms. Recipients receive a $2,500 scholarship.

    The Daniel Gillman Goodfellow Award, presented by HMTC and the Gillman family, is given to a college or university student on Long Island who confronted an act of social injustice or intolerance or helped others in need. The recipient will receive a $1,000 award.

    The Tolerance Benefit is sponsored by Spectronics Corporation, Sterling Risk Insurance and Title Associates. Other Sponsorship opportunities are available. Tickets are $125 a person and a ten-pack of tickets is available for $1,125. Tickets may be purchased online at hmtcli.org.

    For more information about sponsorship packages and to purchase tickets, contact Deborah Lom at (516) 571-8040 or dlom@hmtcli.org.

  • February Upstanders of the Month

    Unity Club

    This month we are celebrating the Unity Club at East Northport Middle School as HMTC’s February Upstanders of the Month! Teachers Sandy Leahy and Chris Rozmus brought 15 students to our fall student leadership conference and the students left energized and eager to bring what they learned back to their school and peers. They began brainstorming issues and projects to help make East Northport a more welcoming community.

    The Unity Club is participating in this year’s “PS I Love You Day,” begun by a Claire Friedlander Upstander scholar in West Islip. Students from the Unity Club will distribute small cards to the ENMS community as a reminder that someone cares, to hold on to or to share with another student. The Unity Club will also decorate the school with reminders everywhere: purple strings on each lock, small baskets with comforting and inspirational words in inconspicuous places and inspirational music played between classes. Ms. Leahy says, “We want this uplifting feeling of PS I Love You Day to continue beyond one single day in February.”

    The members of the Unity Club are also working on a giant photo mosaic of everyone in the school, in the shape of an American flag, inspired by Maria Cruz Lee of Define American, who spoke at the October student conference at HMTC. In addition, they are developing public service announcements to run on their school TV station, TIGER TV, focusing on labels. We look foward to seeing the finished PSAs!

    The goal of the Fall student conference is to help students recognize their ability to make a difference. The Unity Club at East Northport is a wonderful example of this idea in action, and we’re thrilled to celebrate them as our February Upstanders!

  • Tell HMTC About Young People Who Are Making a Difference!

    Tell HMTC About Young People Who Are Making a Difference!


    by Tracy Garrison- Feinberg

    This week we’ve been receiving applications for the 2016 Claire Friedlander Upstander Award, and it’s wonderful to see young people from all over Long Island working to make their communities better in so many different ways. That’s why we take the time to honor a few of these students each year with a $2,500 scholarship, why we try to feature at least one student each month in this blog as Upstander of the Month, and why I’m  thrilled that Newsday is giving us examples on a regular basis of “Students to Watch.”

    Too often we read about negative images of teenagers in our world today: they’re apathetic, they’re only concerned with themselves and their technology, they have no concept of history. The students I see in our education programs prove these stereotypes false every single day. I see young people who are connected, passionate and compassionate, and their stories inspire me daily.

    At HMTC, we teach young people that standing up for others is the best way to stand up against bigotry, hatred or intolerance of any kind. We promote the idea of the “Upstander,” which two New Jersey students felt was so important that they started a campaign to add the word “upstander” to the Oxford English Dictionary. And I know that students across Long Island, in every community, have similar stories of standing up. We want to hear them and share their examples!

    Please be in touch with us about inspiring young people, and watch this space! You’ll see their stories in this blog and later this spring we’ll announce the 2016 Friedlander Upstander Scholars. I look forward to celebrating more Long Island inspiring students!

    Tracy Garrison-Feinberg is director of the Claire Friedlander Education Institute at HMTC. You can contact Tracy at tracygarrisonfeinberg@hmtcli.org. 

  • Remembering an Upstander and Looking for Others

    JulianBond and SNCC

    By Tracy Garrison-Feinberg, Director of the Claire Friedlander Education Institute at HMTC

    The world lost a giant on August 15, 2015 with the passing of Julian Bond, a founding member of the Student Nonviolent Coordinating Committee (SNCC), co-founder of the Southern Poverty Law Center, Georgia state legislator, former chairman of the NAACP, and tireless champion of human rights. He is best known for his civil rights activism, but he also was a strong and vocal supporter of marriage equality and protecting the environment. If you have seen any of the episodes of Eyes on the Prize, you have heard his voice narrating each episode. He was literally the voice of the movement for generations learning the long history of the Civil Rights Movement. It was a distinctive voice, and it will be sorely missed.

    I had the amazing opportunity to hear Mr. Bond in person in 2010 at the SNCC 50th anniversary conference in Raleigh, NC, and to speak with him personally. After hearing his powerful keynote on the founding of SNCC, I was walking through the lobby of the conference center and there he was, standing alone. I went up to him, introduced myself briefly and thanked him for his speech, which moved us all. He thanked me, then with a twinkle in his eye, asked me, “yes, but did I look good?” We both laughed and I assured him that he did, indeed, resplendent in his striped tan jacket and sky blue shirt. Meeting him and so many other veterans of SNCC and the larger movement was an experience I won’t ever forget. Seeing how human they were reminded me that they weren’t superheroes. They were people who put their bodies on the line in order to hold our nation true to its founding principles, who believed that real change requires commitment, and sometimes risk. And their example, especially Mr. Bond’s, continues to inspire.

    There are and will continue to be many tributes to Julian Bond, and already his own words are part of the memorialization of this giant, this gentleman, this Upstander. As HMTC celebrates and honors young people who work to make their world a better place, like this young woman, a high school student from Glen Cove, Mr. Bond’s thoughts on leadership and activism should inspire more young people to follow his example:

    Leadership can come from anywhere. You don’t have to be a certain type of person or have a certain type of education to be a leader. You just have to be willing to throw yourself into the fight. That’s all it takes.

    HMTC is looking for young people across Long Island who are throwing themselves into the fight and making a difference in large and small ways. If you know of a middle school or high school student who fits this description, contact Tracy Garrison-Feinberg, director of school programs, at tracygarrisonfeinberg@hmtcli.org. Please also encourage them to apply for our annual Upstander Award – the deadline for submissions is January 11, 2016.

  • Friedlander Upstander and Gillman Goodfellow Awards Presented at Tolerance Benefit

    HMTC Chair Steven Markowitz and NCPD Deputy Inspector Gary Shapiro, Upstander Award Winners  Paulina Calcaterra, Shannon Butler, Alexis Wojcik, Peter J. Klein, Tracy Garrison-Feinberg, Director CFEIThe 2015 Friedlander Upstander Awards and the first-ever Daniel Gillman Goodfellow Award were presented on May 4, 2015 at the Holocaust Memorial & Tolerance Center of Nassau County’s Tolerance Benefit and Auction. Deputy Inspector Gary Shapiro of the Nassau County Police Department was also honored. Receiving the Friedlander Upstander Award were high school students Shannon Butler and Paulina Calcaterra and middle school student Alexis Wojcik. The recipient of the Gillman Goodfellow Award was Scott Gruenewald.

    The Friedlander Upstander Award, made possibly by the generosity of the Claire Friedlander Family Foundation and established as a legacy from Holocaust Survivor Claire Friedlander, provides an educational scholarship of $2,500 and is presented in cooperation with the Nassau and Suffolk County Police Departments.  Shannon Butler, a senior at Bay Shore High School, received the Friedlander Upstander Award due to her work to help change the way special needs students are viewed and treated. Paulina Calcaterra, a senior at North Shore High School, received a Friedlander Upstander Award because she implemented a student forum to foster constructive discussions about issues of race and policing and shared with students her research on 20th century genocides to deepen their understanding of modern history. Alexis Wojcik, an eighth grader at Plainview-Old Bethpage Middle School, received the award for mentoring elementary school students with autism, helping them learn basic skills and socialization.

    HOlocaust Survivor Charlotte Gillman, Daniel Gillman Goodfellow Award Winner, Scott Gruenewald and HMTC Chair Steven MarkowitzStony Brook University student Scott Gruenewald was the recipient of the first-ever Daniel Gillman Goodfellow Award, which was established by Daniel’s grandmother, a Holocaust Survivor, Charlotte Gillman, in his memory. Scott received the  award because of his many years of community service which includes helping the homeless.

    Guests who attended participated in A Taste of Long Island, featuring some of Long Island’s top restaurants and there was also a silent auction and raffle to benefit HMTC.